Good communication is an important part of all relationships and is an essential part of any healthy partnership.
All relationships have ups and downs, but a healthy communication style can make it easier to deal with conflict and build a stronger and healthier partnership. #WakeUpNigeriaOnTVC
A few years ago, Peace Agede discovered a certification course called family system engineering while trying to deal with marital issues due to past unresolved pain.
Peace was intrigued with how she could connect with lessons as a result of experiences. She found it as a solution and has decided not only to use it to help herself but to help other people.
According to peace childhood, upbringing and trauma can possibly affect t your relationship and marriage with your partner.
“The issues I had with my partner was as a result of communication to a large extent, my communication method was quite aggressive so it was affecting the relationship.
“We really don’t teach people effective communication in this part of the world so that affected me a lot and then I realize along the line that I am an aggressive communicator more like a passive-aggressive communicator and i need to do better, from being passive-aggressive to becoming an assertive communicator and that really help me put my marriage and relationship back in shape.
That really taught me that there is really no relationship that cant is resolved, it just requires patience and understanding.
We have four types of communication and they are,
It’s important to understand each communication style, and why individuals use them. For example, the assertive communication style has been found to be the most effective, because it incorporates the best aspects of all the other styles.
Passive Communicator
Passive communicators usually fail to express their feelings or needs, allowing others to express themselves. Frequently, a passive communicator’s lack of outward communication can lead to misunderstanding, anger build-up or resentment.
Aggressive Communication
The aggressive communication style is emphasized by speaking in a loud and demanding voice, maintaining intense eye contact and dominating or controlling others by blaming, intimidating, criticizing, threatening or attacking them, among other traits.
Passive-Aggressive
In the Passive-aggressive communication style users appear passive on the surface, but within he or they may feel powerless or stuck, building up a resentment that leads to seething or acting out in subtle, indirect or secret ways.
- Model respectful listening. …
- Choose to be genuinely interested in what your spouse has to say. …
- Write your spouse a note that reinforces your message. …
- Schedule regular, media-free family mealtimes. …
- Keep the television turned off. …
- Make eye contact when you are talking.
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