There are many reasons why people stay with an abusive partner and Michelle is here to talk to us about that.
Michelle is a certified family life and TPT practitioner as well as the founder of inside wellness.
Could an abusive relationship be due to a lack of self-love, societal values and others? The first layer of the reasons for staying in an abusive relationship is practical, even if they are not always rational.
Abuse means treating someone with violence, disrespect, cruelty, harm, or force. When someone treats their partner in any of these ways repeatedly it’s called an abusive relationship. Abuse in a relationship can be physical, sexual, or emotional. Or it could be all of these.
An abusive partner might use mean words, threats, or shaming. They might act with jealousy or controlling behaviour. Or with physical or sexual violence. These things can start small and build over time.
Why do people stay in abusive relationships?
There are many angles to this and to so many people, this is their reality, you can’t tell them they’re not in love but more often than not, it’s more from s place of lack of self-love. When you don’t value yourself enough to say I deserve better you stick it there.
Sometimes what makes it more difficult is societal expectations. We have these expectations that a relationship is only perfect when it is long so we look for longevity to judge how good the relationship is.
Also, what can cause that is when someone is used to chaos and abuse from childhood. If all you know is people yelling at you, nobody apologizes when they wrong you, people disrespecting you, brothers beating you, fathers beating your mum etc
When you are used to all these, you won’t even know that what you are dealing with yourself is abuse. This set of people end up seeing themselves in the hands of the abuser and even apologizing on their knees.
If you think you’re in an abusive relationship, it’s time to get help. There are people to help you get to a safe situation. There are people to help you sort out all the emotions of partner abuse.
See the video below for more!
