Popular blogger, Linda Ikeji recently shared her thoughts about spanking and scolding kids as she celebrates Mother’s Day. While stating that her son. Jayce is a kind little boy as described by his teacher at school, she revealed that she doesn’t believe in spanking children over every mistake they make in the bid to correct them.
She wrote:
“As today is Mother’s Day in some parts of the world, I’d like to talk about raising our kids.
AdvertisementI think I’m a great mum… I really don’t need anybody to tell me that. Not just with Jayce, I’m fiercely protective and crazy inlove with my nephews and nieces. And I love children in general.
With Jayce, I show him a lot of love and kindness and let him have his way most of the time. I’ve heard someone say be careful not to spoil him especially when he does something that they think deserves a spanking and I refuse to spank him.
I dont believe in spanking children over every mistake they make in the bid to correct them. The occasional spanking, every once in a long while, is okay…(I’ve definitely done that with Jayce) but I believe when they make a mistake or misbehave, correcting them firmly but kindly and with love is better than hitting them, yelling at them, shaking them or giving them some kind of physical punishment. Especially when they are under 5.
AdvertisementFor instance with Jayce, I’ve had family and close friends tell me he is a kind and loving boy but they are family and friends so you just feel they are being nice…but less than two weeks of starting school, his teacher described him as a kind boy in his daily report book. That made my whole week. It tells me the love and kindness I show him every day is shaping him and he’s passing it forward.
I believe that listening to our children when they have something to say, acknowledging their feelings, recognising their positive behaviour and maybe even rewarding that behaviour will help to shape them into great individuals.
I feel like constantly spanking, yelling, shaming or using harsh words on our children could lead to behavior problems. That method, to me, is ineffective, does more harm than good and kind of teaches them it’s okay to cause someone else pain if they don’t get their way or feel frustrated.
AdvertisementThis is my opinion. What’s yours? Do you believe in spanking children?
PS: My mum raised me and my siblings with so much love and kindness. I don’t recall her ever beating us. Not once! My father is a different story…lol. Happy Mother’s Day to every single woman alive. God bless! ❤❤”
