Estranged ex-wife of Christ Embassy Church founder, Chris Oyakhilome, has taken to her blog to share an interesting read on ‘facing the reality of a dead marriage’.
Her post:
Happy Anniversary to the best couple in the world
Wife: Hello
Husband: How are you?
Wife: I amgood. How is your day?
Husband: Good
Wife: Today is our anniversary. Happy Anniversary.
Husband: Happy anniversary.
Wife: I noticed many greetings on social media wishing us a happy anniversary. I find it confusing to read comments from your close friends saying “ best couple in the world”; it sounds like a complete joke, when they know we rarely see each other. We see each other at most ten days in a year; I can’t understand their reason for making this comment, such flattery. It is confusing to me.
Husband: Well, at least they sent their greetings.
Wife: Their greetings are on social media, no contact by text or by email.
Husband: Silence
Wife: Hello
Husband: Yes
Wife: I sometimes wonder if we are married. There is nothing more to this relationship to indicate we are married apart from a ring on my finger; the ring is another story and our pictures are interjected because we are rarely together to take a proper picture. I feel sad that we are not together.
Husband: Look, I have told you over and over again that we cannot live in the same country because we are very busy and one country is too small for both of us. I expect you should be able to figure that out.
Wife: One country is too small for us?
Husband: Yes and you keep coming back to ask the same question.
Wife: Okay. Since you don’t often call either, please call the children, at least once a month. They go on for months without speaking with you. I noticed they don’t seem to care anymore.
Husband: Okay
Wife: That is about all.
Husband: Silence (breathing sound)
Wife: Have a beautiful day.
Husband: Silence (breathing sound)
Wife: Bye
Husband: Silence (breathing sound)
Wife: Hello
Husband: Silence (Goes off the Phone)
Wife: Okay
Facing the reality of a dead marriage, where a spouse spends many years of endless hope in anticipation for a change, enduring a relationship that is bereft of life. Believe it or not, this was somebody’s experience and is another person’s state of affair.
There is so much in life to be enjoyed.
